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My Dad died 6 months ago today.
I didn't even realize it until this morning. I was going to write an entry about finishing his taxes this week and how weird a job that is.
Going through all his financial stuff and pouring over his cheque book, looking at his hand-writing and seeing the things he paid for. Very personal and in a strange way made him real to me again.
He was just a guy, paying his bills and living his life when 2006 began. By years end he was dead.
I know it's stupid but I would look at things he'd write cheques for and think, "In March 06 he bought this and he only had "X" amount of checks left in his life!"
Taxes. Death and Taxes and my Dad paid the most taxes of his life after he died. He also made the most money of his life in his last year and believe me it wasn't a lot.
Now his return is done and today I'll mail it and that phase will be over with.
I've been handling my Dad's affairs for the last 6 months and in a few days I'll close his bank account and that will be it.
I'm not sure where I'm at with all of this.
Most days I remember my Dad is dead and I'm okay with it.
Other days I remember my Dad is dead and I'm surprised/saddened/and I miss him.
6 months ago today I was devastated.
Yesterday I wrote a cheque to the government from my Dad's account and then I sealed the envelope.
It was the last one in his cheque book.
Category: HumbleStuff
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Howard; I know exactly how you feel. I lost my mom 3 years ago this month and a day doesn't go by that i don't think about her, hear her voice, miss her...
The good news is that the grief does subside and you are left with all the wonderful memories. i realized the day my mom died that my life would never be the same again; its not but i'm still the person i am and better for her having raised me. i treasure our lives together and she's with me always in spirit. your dad will be with you also. in the meantime; you have my support and sympathy.
Posted by: charlsey | April 27, 2007 / 17:45
We're with you, dude.
Posted by: Doug | April 28, 2007 / 08:44
Believe me, you'll still be counting 20 years later and still think about him daily.
Posted by: Kelly | April 28, 2007 / 12:19
All the best to you Howard. You're good people!
Posted by: Jason | April 29, 2007 / 15:37
My heart goes out to you everytime I read your entries about your Dad, and I remember when you would, on the rare occasion, feature him on your show. He sounded like a nice guy.
Posted by: MacKnife | April 30, 2007 / 22:29